Leaving a toxic relationship means choosing yourself over being needed by someone else who isn’t treating you right. In an unhealthy relationship with a narcissist, co-dependent, sociopath, put a name on whatever and whomever – it all boils down to truth.
In doing research on relationships and behavior relating to past trauma etc., it’s clear that sometimes people want out of the relationship but don’t have the confidence or self-esteem to tell the truth to their partner. Sometimes the toxic behavior is to push their partner away and make them break up with them so it’s not on them. We hear “I love you,” but, “I’m not in love with you.” If there is any sort of love that doesn’t come with a condition and when there is love, there is respect at a minimum. Toxic, unhealthy, lies, cheating, gaslighting, etc., are not acts of love. These are insecurities and red flags.
Step back and once again think about why anyone would treat their partner with disrespect and lie about how they really feel. Either way, when you look at an unhealthy situation in a relationship or in the workplace, friendship, etc., there is no excuse for poor behavior.
If these issues aren’t addressed then you’ll add resentment, anger, living in the past, jealousy, tit- for-tat behavior, revenge and a multitude of other actions that can snowball. Sometimes things can change and be fixed, but sometimes you must leave.
